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Marital Intimacy

Marriage is honourable in all, and the bed undefiled: but whoremongers and adulterers God will judge. (Hebrews 13:4)

Training up a Child

Train up a child in the way he should go: and when he is old, he will not depart from it. (Proverbs 22:6)

Our Role in Life

Wives, submit yourselves unto your own husbands, as unto the Lord. For the husband is the head of the wife, even as Christ is the head of the church: and he is the saviour of the body. Therefore as the church is subject unto Christ, so let the wives be to their own husbands in every thing. Husbands, love your wives, even as Christ also loved the church, and gave himself for it; (Ephesians 5:22-25)


Marital Intimacy

(Pray that Couples would Lean toward Richly enjoying it)

A Word to the Reader

I want to remind you though you may already know, how that God wants us to have a healthy and enjoyable marriage relationship. This is done by using scriptures from the Old as well as the New Testament, showing that the sexual practices enjoyed by today’s married couples were enjoyed back in the past as well. For “that which has been is that which will be, And that which has been done is that which will be done. So there is nothing new under the sun. Is there anything of which one might say, "See this, it is new"? Already it has existed for ages which were before us.” (Ecclesiastes 1:9-10) And, let’s remember that these acts of sexual intimacy are only temporal while in our present bodies. For that day will come when we’re finally in our new bodies, being in the presents of God forever. (2 Corinthians 5:1-11) So, even if we as fellow believers don’t see eye to eye on everything that’s written here, we should agree not to divide over the things that pertain to this life. For we should instead make sure to encourage each other in the things that pertain to eternal life. Amen.

Richly to Enjoy

We read in God’s word that He created marital intimacy and wants us not only to express our love to one another through it, but to richly enjoy it as well. (Proverbs 5:18-19, Song of Songs 4:16, 1 Timothy 6:17) For its this act between a man and a woman which can bring about the most intense physical pleasure. And it’s for a good reason as well. For it’s one of those pleasures of life that brings forth new life into this world, and yes, I do mean babies. So, this being the case, doesn't it make sense that God would make it intensely pleasurable? And let’s remember that God’s word says: “Marriage is honorable among all, and the bed undefiled” which means marriage is good for everyone and that sexual intimacy is not to be viewed as dirty, defiling or unholy. (Hebrews 13:4) And let’s remember that we ourselves are here because our parents had a sexual encounter as well. And let’s thank God they did.

Now, we must keep in mind that everybody is not at the same level of faith. And this is true when it comes to sexual intimacy as well. For some whose faith is weak may limit themselves to some simple basics, while others faith may allow them to have more freedom. Therefore, we need to be careful not to put a stumbling block nor a guilt trip on a fellow Christian. For those who limit themselves to the simple basics, should not condemn those who do otherwise. And in the same way, those who have more freedom should not look down on those who don’t. For we need to take heed to what God’s word says and leave all judgment up to God. For its before Him that we stand or fall; and according to his word, he will make us stand. (Romans 14) So, wherever your faith may allow you to go, give glory and thanks to God for it. Amen.

Me, Me, Me that Shouldn’t Be

Now, we still need to use caution when it comes to physical intimacy. For it can be so easy to take things out of perspective and focus only on ourselves. For we must not overlook the fact that sexual intimacy is to be an act of giving as well as receiving. For we are to focus on bringing pleasure to our spouse who in turn should want to bring pleasure to us. It can truly be a beautiful act when couples have this attitude of giving to one another. And again, let's not forget that the sexual act between a man and his wife was designed by God to bring children into this world.

So, we must be careful not to be so caught up and be excessive in sexual intimacy. For it can be so easy to take sex out of its intended environment and end up being unfruitful. Paul the apostle said: “but this I say, brethren, the time is short: it remaineth, that both they that have wives be as though they had none; And they that weep, as though they wept not; and they that rejoice, as though they rejoiced not; and they that buy, as though they possessed not; And they that use this world, as not abusing it: for the fashion of this world passeth away. (1 Corinthians 7:29-31)

Living a life of excessiveness

So, in view of what was mention above, we need to be practicing self-control in the things pertaining to this life as well. For if we don’t, it will only lead to feelings of incompleteness, emptiness, and even frustration. We can see this to be true in the book of Ecclesiastes where its author said at one point: “And whatsoever mine eyes desired I kept not from them, I withheld not my heart from any joy; for my heart rejoiced in all my labour: and this was my portion of all my labour. Then I looked on all the works that my hands had wrought, and on the labour that I had laboured to do: and, behold, all was vanity and vexation of spirit, and there was no profit under the sun. (Ecclesiastes 2:10-11). Therefore, let us take heed to God’s word and not to over indulge ourselves. (see Ecclesiastes 2:1-11 for a complete picture on this)

We need the Holy Spirit daily to help us put all these things into their proper perspective. His word tells us to walk after the Spirit in order to put off the deeds of the flesh. For if you live for pleasure you will die, but if you live for God, he will give you all things to enjoy in their proper time and place. (1 Timothy 5:6) Therefore, let’s always read and meditate on his word and be doers of it, keeping our mind stayed on him. Amen. (Isaiah 26:3-4, Colossians 3:1-3)

Because of Our Infirmities

Do not deprive one another except with consent for a time, that you may give yourselves to fasting and prayer; and come together again so that Satan does not tempt you because of your lack of self-control. (1 Corinthians 7:5)

Now, because of our fallen state, we may struggle with some sexual infirmity that can hamper a normal sexual act. But even here God provides ways for us to still richly enjoy the sexual act as well. An example of this would be oral intimacy. For there are those who do rely on it to help get things going on the marriage bed. And for even some, this is their only option for sex. Of course, these same couples may have to get creative in their quest to have children. However, with a little help and cooperation from each other, and utilizing what God has given them, they can work all things out. (click here for a more detailes on oral sex)

Now, there may be those couples who enjoy a normal sex life but are struggling with conceiving a child. But that didn't stop Abraham and Sarah as well as Zachariah and Elizabeth from engaging in sex even in their old age. (Genesis 21:1-2, Luke 1:24) For we know from the Bible that both these couples were finally blessed with a child. So, whether you’re a young newlywed or well advanced in years, don't stop enjoying sex with your spouse, even in your infirmities. For God is the God of miracles who can make a way for you, no matter what difficulties you may be facing. Amen.

The Benefits of the two becoming One Flesh

And said, For this cause shall a man leave father and mother, and shall cleave to his wife: and they twain shall be one flesh? (Matthew 19:5)

Now we turn our attention on, “what does it mean to became, One Flesh.” This statement, “one flesh” is not to be viewed as a metaphor, but as a fact. For studies have shown that a few hours after a woman receives her husband semen, the components of his semen are detected in her blood stream. And what is also fascinating about these studies is that they even found male DNA present within women’s bodies as well. This makes that statement above literally true. Below are those studies mentioned above.

I would like to point out some other health factors involved in sexual intimacy for both the man and woman. For the woman, science has shown that the man's semen contains components for a woman to have not only a safe pregnancy, but to help enhance her mood as well. So, because of these benefits, I included some articles on these studies below.

And for you men, studies have also shown that a weekly sexual release can help maintain your prostate and reduce the risk of cancer (click here to see studies on this subject).  So, that's why it's so important for wives to engage their husbands in a sexual act even throughout their pregnancy. For it would be a benefit both for the man and the woman (and even the child in her womb if she is pregnant).

Song of Songs

Below are a few passages from the Bible's Song of Songs chapters. Contained within the pages of this book are descriptions of our wonderful human body as well as sexual intimacy through the use of metaphors. So, read through its pages asking God to bring out its rich meanings. And let's remember that God's word says we are "fearfully and wonderfully made," and it is “God, who giveth us richly all things to enjoy." So please do enjoy. (Psalm 139:14) (Timothy 6:17)

References to the beauty of the human body:

  • “As the lily among thorns, so is my love among the daughters.” (Song of Songs 2:2) Here we have the husband who chimes-in saying that her beauty stands out far above all other women. This is the best complement a man can give to his wife regardless how she's viewed by others.
  • “A garden enclosed is my sister, my spouse; a spring shut up, a fountain sealed. Thy plants are an orchard of pomegranates, with pleasant fruits; camphire, with spikenard, Spikenard and saffron; calamus and cinnamon, with all trees of frankincense; myrrh and aloes, with all the chief spices: A fountain of gardens, a well of living waters, and streams from Lebanon.” (Song of Songs 4:12-15) Here we have the husband commenting on his wife as a pleasant fountain garden. Also, it says that she is a “spring shut up” as well as “fountained sealed.” This is in reference that she is still a virgin. However, in verse 16 she invites her husband to open that seal. (see sexual intimacy in Song of Songs below) 
  • “My beloved is white and ruddy, the chiefest among ten thousand. His head is as the most fine gold, his locks are bushy, and black as a raven. His eyes are as the eyes of doves by the rivers of waters, washed with milk, and fitly set. His cheeks are as a bed of spices, as sweet flowers: his lips like lilies, dropping sweet smelling myrrh. His hands are as gold rings set with the beryl: his belly is as bright ivory overlaid with sapphires. His legs are as pillars of marble, set upon sockets of fine gold: his countenance is as Lebanon, excellent as the cedars. His mouth is most sweet: yea, he is altogether lovely. This is my beloved, and this is my friend, O daughters of Jerusalem.” (Song of Songs 5:10-16) Here we have the wife commenting on her husband body.

References to Sexual intimacy in song of songs:

  • As the apple among the trees of the woods, So is my beloved among the sons. I desired to be in his shadow and to sit down; And his fruit was sweet in my mouth. (Song of Songs 2:3 OSB) For a detailed look at what’s being said here, click on this link: (click here to see a detailed article on this)
  • “Awake, O north wind; and come, thou south; blow upon my garden, that the spices thereof may flow out. Let my beloved come into his garden, and eat his pleasant fruits.” (Song of Songs 4:16) She is inviting her husband for some action. While living in Texas for 10 years, I got the feel of what’s it like when a north wind comes rushing toward the south. All I can say is you better hold on to your hat because there is a lot of action in the air.
  • “How fair and how pleasant art thou, O love, for delights! This thy stature is like to a palm tree, and thy breasts to clusters of grapes. I said, I will go up to the palm tree, I will take hold of the boughs thereof: now also thy breasts shall be as clusters of the vine, and the smell of thy nose like apples” (Song of Songs 7:6-8) To this day, there a those who help get the pollination process going by climbing up the date palms. For there is both a male tree as well as a female tree. Thus, by taking a portion of the male pollen, they can dust the female palm tree with it. (click her to see video on Date Tree Pollination)

What about Birth Control?

So, what about birth control. Well, I’m going to be quite frank with you on this. I believe that the use of birth control is a sin against God. This would include the use of birth control pills, condoms, vasectomy, tubal ligation or pulling out during a normal intercourse so as to spill one’s semen on the ground. These acts are a willful withholding of children which is in direct defiance to God’s command for married couples. For the Bible says: “And God blessed them, and God said unto them, Be fruitful, and multiply, and replenish the earth, and subdue it: and have dominion over the fish of the sea, and over the fowl of the air, and over every living thing that moveth upon the earth." (Genesis 1:28)

Punishments for Birth-Control

So, are there any punishment described in the Bible for married couple who are using birth control? Well, that there is. For we can see a man named Onan who didn’t want his wife to conceive a child. For God word says: “And Onan knew that the seed should not be his; and it came to pass, when he went in unto his brother's wife, that he spilled it on the ground, lest that he should give seed to his brother. And the thing which he did displeased the LORD: wherefore he slew him also.” (Genesis 38:9-10) Now, Onan had the choice not to marry her if he did not want her as a wife (even though it would be to his disgrace). But because he did marry her, he then had the duty to bring forth children by her. However, he refused and God slew him for his wrongful actions. However, no harm came to his wife because we know from scriptures that she wanted a child. (Genesis 38:13-14)

Now, I also know a Christian couple that are suffering because of the use of birth control. For even though the husband new birth control was wrong, he failed to not stop his wife from having her tubes tied (tubal ligation). She unfortunately came down with HPV virus a few years later and had to have surgery. Now the couple can’t have vaginal intercourse. However, God still provides for us his children by giving other options such as oral intimacy (which can be performed on one another) to still enjoy sexual pleasure.

The Puritan's View of Sex in Marriage 

Now the Spirit speaketh expressly, that in the latter times some shall depart from the faith, giving heed to seducing spirits, and doctrines of devils; Speaking lies in hypocrisy; having their conscience seared with a hot iron; Forbidding to marry, [and commanding] to abstain from meats, which God hath created to be received with thanksgiving of them which believe and know the truth. (1 Timothy 4:1-3)

By Nathan W. Bingham • Feb 14, 2014:

There are many caricatures and misinformation when it comes to how Christians through the ages have viewed sex in marriage. In Dr. Joel R. Beekeʼs Living for Godʼs Glory: An Introduction to Calvinism, he dedicates a chapter to marriage, in which he discusses the Puritan’s view. Marital love must be sexual, so that both marital partners can give themselves fully to each other with joy and exuberance in a healthy relationship marked by fidelity.

Reformers such as Martin Luther, Ulrich Zwingli, and John Calvin established this aspect of marriage by abandoning the medieval Roman Catholic attitudes that marriage was inferior to celibacy, that all sexual contact between marital partners was a necessary evil to propagate the human race, and that a procreative act that involved passion was inherently sinful. This negative view was rooted in the ancient church and based on the writings of such notables as Tertullian, Ambrose, and Jerome, all of whom believed that, even within marriage, intercourse necessarily involved sin. This attitude toward marital intimacy, which dominated the church for more than ten centuries, inevitably led to the glorification of virginity and celibacy.

By the fifth century, clerics were prohibited from marrying. Two classes of Christians emerged: the “religious” (i.e., the spiritual clergy), which included monks and nuns who vowed to abstain from all sexual activity, and the “profane” (i.e., the secular laity), who, being unable to rise to the noble heights of virginity or celibacy, were conceded the right to marry. Puritan preachers taught that the Roman Catholic view was unbiblical, even satanic. They cited Paul, who said that the prohibition of marriage is a doctrine of devils (1 Timothy. 4:1–3).

Even the Puritan definitions of marriage implied the conjugal act. For example, Perkins defines marriage as “the lawful conjunction of the two married persons; that is, of one man and one woman into one flesh.” In contrast with Desiderius Erasmus, who taught that ideal marriage abstained from sexual intercourse, Cotton said in a wedding sermon that those who call for marital abstinence follow the dictates of a blind mind and not those of the Holy Spirit, who says that it is not good that man should be alone.

The Puritans viewed sex within marriage as a gift of God and as an essential, enjoyable part of marriage. Gouge says that husbands and wives should cohabit “with good will and delight, willingly, readily, and cheerfully.” “They do err,” adds Perkins, “who hold that the secret coming together of man and wife cannot be without sin unless it be done for the procreation of children.” Perkins goes on to say that marital sex is a “due debt” or “due benevolence” (1 Corinthians. 7:3) that a couple owes to one another. That must be shown, he says, “with a singular and entire affection one towards another” in three ways: “First, by the right and lawful use of their bodies or of the marriage bed.” Such physical intimacy by “holy usage” should be “a holy and undefiled action (Hebrews 13:4) sanctified by the word and prayer" (1 Timothy. 4:3–4).

The fruits of God-honoring, enjoyable sex in marriage are the blessing of children, “the preservation of the body in cleanness,” and the reflection of marriage as a type of the Christ-church relationship. Second, married couples must “cherish one another” intimately (Ephesians. 5:29) rather than having sex in an impersonal way as an adulterer with a prostitute. Third, a couple should be intimate “by an holy kind of rejoicing and solacing themselves each with the other in a mutual declaration of the signs and tokens of love and kindness (Proverbs. 5:18–19; Songs 1:1; Genesis. 26:8; Isa. 62:7).

In this context, Perkins particularly mentions kissing. Other Puritans stressed the romantic side of marriage as they compared the love of a husband to Godʼs love for His own. Thomas Hooker writes, “The man whose heart is endeared to the woman he loves, he dreams of her in the night, hath her in his eye and apprehension when he awakes, museth on her as he sits at table, walks with her when he travels and parlies with her in each place where he comes.” He adds: “She lies in his Bosom, and his heart trusts in her, which forceth all to confess, that the stream of his affection, like a mighty current, runs with full tide and strength.”

The emphasis on romance within marriage (rather than in extramarital relations, as was common in the Middle Ages) has often been attributed to the Puritans. Herbert W. Richardson writes that “the rise of romantic marriage and its validation by the Puritans represents a major innovation within the Christian tradition.” And C. S. Lewis says, “The conversion of courtly love into romantic monogamous love was largely the work of... Puritan poets. “The Puritans took the matrimonial duty of sex so seriously that failure to extend “due benevolence” by either partner could be grounds for church discipline. There is at least one case on record in which a husband was excommunicated for “neglecting his wife” by not having intercourse with her for a long period of time.

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The Blessings of Marriage

Marriage is honourable in all, and the bed undefiled: but whoremongers and adulterers God will judge. (Hebrews 13:4)


Training up a Child

(Pray that They would be Properly Strolled through Life)

To the Reader

It is my intent fellow brothers and sisters in Christ, to remind you of how important it is to raise children to be well taught Christians. For this we parents must do who are bringing these children into this would. For they are going to be the next generation of people, thus they must be well educated not only in things pertaining to eternal life, but in things pertaining to this life as well. And this we must do, being led by the Spirit of God in us. Amen.

The Basics

According to God’s word, we should be teaching our children his truth and educating them to be fruitful and productive individuals. Young boys at a very early age should be nurtured and guided for a future career that will help them be able to support a family as well as be beneficial to their society. Likewise, young girls should be taught what it takes to be a good wife and how to raise a family. But most of all, we should be teaching them about our Awesome God and Creator, showing them from birth what Christianity is all about. This can even start when they're still in the womb, singing and reading the bible out loud to them, covering them in God's prayers too.

However, what are we really doing? Well let's see, there’s mindless video games and action movies that puts nonsense and violence into our children's heads. And then we wonder why our youth are numb to violence and are killing each other in schools. Also, there are those nonsense cartoons kid shows, Disney movies, foolish games that are kids our being entertained with. Parents as well as our society is teaching and training children to be a bunch of goofballs instead of nurturing them to be productive citizens. Thus, we're raising a bunch of goofballs so that they can pass on to the next generation they're nonsense as well. For we can see our world starting to reflect what we're making our children into? Oh yes, and let’s not forget about the Smart Phone addiction that’s captivating not only adults, but our youth as well, thus plunging them further into nonsense.

But what does God’s word say to all you parents? "And these words, which I command thee this day, shall be in thine heart: And thou shalt teach them diligently unto thy children, and shalt talk of them when thou sittest in thine house, and when thou walkest by the way, and when thou liest down, and when thou risest up. And thou shalt bind them for a sign upon thine hand, and they shall be as frontlets between thine eyes. And thou shalt write them upon the posts of thy house, and on thy gates. (Deuteronomy 6:6-9)

Looking at the Past

Consider the child Wolfgang Amadeus Mozart (whom we know as Mozart): who even at the age of four, not only already new how to play different instruments, such as the piano and the violin, but also composed his first piano concerto. Leopold Mozart, who was his father and teacher, regarded the blots of ink put down on paper by the unskilled hand of a child with disbelief, realizing that all notes were correctly arranged following contemporary musical rules. From this time on he also taught his son the art of composing: Wolfgang played the melodies on the piano and his father put the notes down on paper. Wolfgang also himself enjoyed singing, a passion that would be his companion for the rest of his life.

So, I don't think this child was feed a bunch of nonsense like most kids get today, but was trained in the “way he should go” as said above. And we can see this to be true with Johann Sebastian Bach and George Frederic Handel as well. All these men were not only musicians at a young age, but were involved with the church of their day.

So, why Sports?

Are you one of those who is deceived thinking that sending your child to soccer camp is going to make them a better person? And if so, in what way may I ask? Don't you realize that all sports are built on the pride (that which brought down Satan), so by allowing you son or daughter to get involved is contrary to God’s word. So again, we should be: “Train up a child in the way he should go” as mention above, and not be building up their ego and pride with things that God hates. For God’s word says that the older women should: “admonish the young women to love their husbands, to love their children, to be discreet, chaste, homemakers, good, obedient to their own husbands, that the word of God may not be blasphemed. Likewise, exhort the young men to be sober-minded, in all things showing yourself to be a pattern of good works; in doctrine showing integrity, reverence, incorruptibility, sound speech that cannot be condemned, that one who is an opponent may be ashamed, having nothing evil to say of you.” So that’s what we should be teaching our children fellow Christians. (Titus 2:1-8) For more info on this go to and click on the article: Idolatry of Sports. All articles are downloadable for free. 

And let’s beware and not forget how many of our youth have died in football alone. Here below are a few clippings from some articles.

  • Experts Alarmed Over 13 High School Football Deaths This Season: For freshman Tyrell Cameron, it was a fractured neck after being hit during a punt return. Ben Hamm took a hit to the head. The same was true for Kenny Bui and Andre Smith. Cam’Ron Matthews felt woozy before he collapsed on the sidelines. Evan Murray also felt woozy, this following a hit to his stomach, while Luke Schemm collapsed on the sidelines soon after he got hit a final time. Within hours or days of their respective collisions or tackles, all seven of these high school football players were dead. In all, 13 high school and one youth football players have died since July 1, according to Doug Casa, Ph.D., the chief executive officer of the Korey Stringer Institute at the University of Connecticut, which researches sudden death in sport. Dr. Robert Cantu, who researches catastrophic sports deaths, tells PEOPLE, "Even one death is too many.” Taken from the website -People at: (or click here for downloadable PDF)
  • We Had No Idea This Many Kids Have Died Playing High School Football This Year: Since the start of the high school football season, five high school football players have died following on-field injuries, matching both last year’s total and the average number of football-related deaths since the late 1990s, according to the National Center for Catastrophic Sport Injury Research at the University of North Carolina-Chapel Hill. Between 2005 and 2014, another 92 high school football players died indirectly from the sport, with causes ranging from heart- related issues to heat stroke and water intoxication. On October 5, for example, Roddrick “Rod” Williams, an offensive lineman at Burke County High School in Georgia, died two weeks after he collapsed during practice. Burke County Coroner Susan Salemi told WSB-TV that his death was due to a heart condition. Amid lingering unease over the long-term effects of concussions, some schools have considered getting rid of football altogether. A string of serious injuries at one Missouri high school—paired with diminished participation—led the school board to eventually shut down the football program in June. Taken from the website - Mother Jones at: (or click here for downloadable PDF)

Dare to Discipline 

Now let’s not forget discipline (spanking your children). It seems our society today thinks it knows better than God on how to correct our children. For His word tells us not to spare the rod of correction, for in applying it you’re actually showing more love than you would if you withheld it. But unfortunately, you can get into big trouble if you take a belt to your child these days. Again, this is all about our corrupt ways, thinking we know better than God. But the truth of the matter is, we don’t know better than God. For we must remember from the womb we were born sinners. That is why God's word says that: "Foolishness is bound in the heart of a child; but the rod of correction shall drive it far from him." So that being said, let's stop encouraging are children in the ways of foolishness and instead make them sound Godly people. (Proverbs 22:15)

Sex Education

Now, there is one last thing I want to touch on, and that is sex educating our children. I believe we as parents have failed our children in this area by giving them the impression that sex is evil and nasty and must be hide from them. But, didn’t God ordained it in the first place, telling us to be fruitful and multiply? So, why do we find it so difficult to educate them in this very important part of life? And the truth is, they’re going to find out about it one way or another. So, it's best that you teach them the do’s and don’ts of sex while they're still young, and especially before they learn the hard way on their own.

So, am I suggesting that couples have an open-door policy and let their young children peek in on them while they’re getting intimate? Well, even though I’m not against that, you could end up having your children taken away from you if the word gets out. Again, this is because we are brain washed by our corrupt system that thinks it know better than God. But again, God’s word says: And thou shalt teach them to thy children, and thou shalt speak of them sitting in the house, and walking by the way, and lying down, and rising up." (Deuteronomy 6:7) So, this “lying down, and rising up” would include what goes on in the marriage bed as well. All this should be done while they're still young and before they reach puberty. So that being said, I do believe the worst thing for a couple would be to panic when their child does happen to walk in on them doing their act. For this will only convey the false message that this is wrong. Just consider it sex education up front and personal, and a good time to tell them how babies are made.

In the past and I'm sure in the present, children who have grown up on farms were able to witness some farm animals in their act of mating. This would naturally allow them to ask and learn that this is how creatures, including their mommy and daddy, make babies. So, it would be learning sex education through nature itself. Unfortunately, children these days don't have this convenient way of learning the facts of life. Therefore, it's you the parent that needs to step up and teach them God's truths on this before they learn it outside the home environment. And please don't rely on our corrupt school system and those of this world teach them this very important part of life. To fail them could only bring hardship, not only on you the parent, but on them as well.

Final Words

Let's dare to stand on God's word and not man’s fails teachings. Let’s use God given wisdom and discernment in everything we do, relying on His Holy Spirit to be our teacher. We can always trust in Him for guidance. Amen.

Article Notes and scripture references:

  • the older women likewise, that they be reverent in behavior, not slanderers, not given to much wine, teachers of good things-- that they admonish the young women to love their husbands, to love their children, to be discreet, chaste, homemakers, good, obedient to their own husbands, that the word of God may not be blasphemed. Likewise, exhort the young men to be sober-minded, in all things showing yourself to be a pattern of good works; in doctrine showing integrity, reverence, incorruptibility, sound speech that cannot be condemned, that one who is an opponent may be ashamed, having nothing evil to say of you. (Titus 2:3-8)
  • The rod and reproof give wisdom: but a child left to himself bringeth his mother to shame. (Proverbs 29:15)
  • Withhold not correction from the child: for if thou beatest him with the rod, he shall not die. Thou shalt beat him with the rod, and shalt deliver his soul from hell.(Proverbs 23:13-14)
  • He that spareth his rod hateth his son: but he that loveth him chasteneth him betimes. (Proverbs 13:24)
  • According to Fox News Latino – In Corpus Christi Texas, A mom was sentenced to probation and has lost custody of her children for spanking her daughter. The article said: Rosalina Gonzales of Corpus Christi pleaded guilty on Wednesday to injury to a child for swatting the 2-year-old on her buttocks. According to prosecutors, Gonzales in December hit the girl with an open hand, leaving red marks. Police arrested Gonzales after the childʼs grandmother reported the injuries and took the child to a hospital. Gonzales will serve five yearsʼ probation, take parenting classes and follow guidelines laid out by Child Protective Services. reports that the ruling judge in the case make it clear that spanking is a crime. “You donʼt spank children today.” Judge Jose Longoria is quoted as having said. “In the old days, maybe we got spanked, but there was different quarrel. You donʼt spank children.” Published June 21, 2011 / Fox News Latino
  • Seeing that Abraham shall surely become a great and mighty nation, and all the nations of the earth shall be blessed in him? For I know him, that he will command his children and his household after him, and they shall keep the way of the LORD, to do justice and judgment; that the LORD may bring upon Abraham that which he hath spoken of him. (Genesis 18:18-19)
  • Only take heed to thyself, and keep thy soul diligently, lest thou forget the things which thine eyes have seen, and lest they depart from thy heart all the days of thy life: but teach them thy sons, and thy sons' sons; Specially the day that thou stoodest before the LORD thy God in Horeb, when the LORD said unto me, Gather me the people together, and I will make them hear my words, that they may learn to fear me all the days that they shall live upon the earth, and that they may teach their children. (Deuteronomy 4:9-10)
  • Train up a child in the way he should go: and when he is old, he will not depart from it. (Proverbs 22:6)
  • And these words, which I command thee this day, shall be in thine heart: And thou shalt teach them diligently unto thy children, and shalt talk of them when thou sittest in thine house, and when thou walkest by the way, and when thou liest down, and when thou risest up. And thou shalt bind them for a sign upon thine hand, and they shall be as frontlets between thine eyes. And thou shalt write them upon the posts of thy house, and on thy gates. (Deuteronomy 6:6-9)
  • Give ear, O my people, to my law: incline your ears to the words of my mouth. I will open my mouth in a parable: I will utter dark sayings of old: Which we have heard and known, and our fathers have told us. We will not hide them from their children, shewing to the generation to come the praises of the LORD, and his strength, and his wonderful works that he hath done. For he established a testimony in Jacob, and appointed a law in Israel, which he commanded our fathers, that they should make them known to their children: That the generation to come might know them, even the children which should be born; who should arise and declare them to their children: That they might set their hope in God, and not forget the works of God, but keep his commandments: And might not be as their fathers, a stubborn and rebellious generation; a generation [that] set not their heart aright, and whose spirit was not stedfast with God. (Psalm 78:1-8)
  • And you, fathers, do not provoke your children to wrath, but bring them up in the training and admonition of the Lord. (Ephesians 6:4)

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And these words, which I command thee this day, shall be in thine heart: And thou shalt teach them diligently unto thy children, and shalt talk of them when thou sittest in thine house, and when thou walkest by the way, and when thou liest down, and when thou risest up. And thou shalt bind them for a sign upon thine hand, and they shall be as frontlets between thine eyes. And thou shalt write them upon the posts of thy house, and on thy gates. (Deuteronomy 6:6-9)


Our Role in Life

(Pray that All would Roll with It)

To the Reader

It is my intent to remind you my fellow brothers and sisters in Christ, of the role that God has given to every man, woman and child. For we live in a world that has blurred the line of distinction between not only the sexes, but of that which pertains to a parent and a child. So please read and consider what God’s word has to say in all this, and then let’s return each to our proper place in life. Amen.


From the creation account above, I do believe that there was a natural unity and harmony between the man and the woman, each knowing their place in life instinctively. And there in the garden, we can see from God's word that man was a vegetarian and ate from the fruit trees and vegetables as well. We can also see that there was no fear of man in the animals. But most of all, it was that beautiful relationship that man had with God, being not yet tainted by sin.

Now for starters, I would like to be clear on one thing and that would be this; that both the man and the woman are created in God’s image. For God's word says “So God created man in his own image, in the image of God created he him; male and female created he them.” (Genesis 1:27) So, this shows that the man and the woman are equal in nature. We are all one in Christ Jesus, for “there is neither Jew nor Greek, there is neither bond nor free, there is neither male nor female: for ye are all one in Christ Jesus.” (Galatians 3:28). The only difference between the sexes is our God given earthly roles that He bestowed upon us. We can see this in nature itself by observing that the males are generally larger and stronger than the females. This would naturally place the males in a place of dominance and rule over the female, but not in any way inferring that one is better than the other.


Unto the woman he said, I will greatly multiply thy sorrow and thy conception; in sorrow thou shalt bring forth children; and thy desire shall be to thy husband, and he shall rule over thee. (Genesis 3:16)

Now, because of the fall of mankind and sin entering into the world, things started to change for the worse on the earth. Therefore, God felt it necessary to make it very clear that the man is still to have the rule over the woman and she is to be in subjection unto him. We can see this to be true from the passage above. So, let us not believe that before the fall there was no male dominance over the female. For we can mistakenly come to this conclusion by the scripture quoted above. However, Godʼs Word clearly states otherwise as we will see. For we can read in Paul's first letter to Timothy that it says that the woman is not to “usurp authority over the man”because “Adam was first formed, then Eve.” (1Timothy 2:13-15) Also, we have Paulʼs first letter to the Corinthians stating that man was not created for the woman, but the woman for the man. This is showing from the very beginning (before the fall) that God had created the man to be head over the woman. (1Corinthians 11:9)

Now, according to the passage quoted above in Genesis 3:16, we read that the woman's desire is going to be for her husband. This is the same wording as it is in chapter 4 of Genesis where we read: "And the LORD said unto Cain, Why art thou wroth? and why is thy countenance fallen? If thou doest well, shalt thou not be accepted? and if thou doest not well, sin lieth at the door. And unto thee shall be his desire, and thou shalt rule over him. (Genesis 4:6-7) So we see in these two passages that this word "desire" is speaks of having ones will and way over someone else and not a sexual desire.

This is true because God told Adam and Eve to be "fruitful and multiply" before the fall which would come to reason that they already had sexual desires for one another. So, this desire here pronounced upon the woman would be part of the curse, which would be an unnatural desire to have dominion over her husbands. However, God says to the woman (and those women of today) "he shall rule over you.” (Genesis 3:16)

We must be diligent to stand on the truth of God’s Word and not try to water it down with our own theology or feelings. It seems there’s this urge to try to twist or bend God's Word in such a way that it would be appealing to all. (2 Peter 3:15-16) And isn’t it true that we do this because we are so afraid of offending someone? And it's no wonder why we have such disorder in the church today as well as in our homes? It’s time we stand up for the truth of God’s Word and take our rightful places in life (both the man and the woman). So, I hope that this is what we’ll do, because to do otherwise would only be thwarting a divine commandment of God.


And this have ye done again, covering the altar of the LORD with tears, with weeping, and with crying out, insomuch that he regardeth not the offering any more, or receiveth it with god will at your hand. Yet ye say, Wherefore? Because the LORD hath been witness between thee and the wife of thy youth, against whom thou hast dealt treacherously: yet is she thy companion, and the wife of thy covenant. And did not he make one? Yet had he the residue of the spirit. And wherefore one? That he might seek a godly seed. Therefore take heed to your spirit, and let none deal treacherously against the wife of his youth. (Malachi 2:13-15)

It is obvious from this scripture above that God hates divorce. We can see this to be true as well in Matthew’s gospel which reads: “But I say to you that whoever divorces his wife for any reason except sexual immorality causes her to commit adultery; and whoever marries a woman who is divorced commits adultery.” So, for a man to put away his wife, would not only show a lack of honor for her, but would put her in danger of committing adultery as well. Peter said: “Husbands, likewise, dwell with them with understanding, giving honor to the wife, as to the weaker vessel, and as being heirs together of the grace of life, that your prayers may not be hindered.” (1 Peter 3:7) Also, we are to, “love your wives, just as Christ also loved the church and gave Himself for her, ... So husbands ought to love their own wives as their own bodies; he who loves his wife loves himself. For no one ever hated his own flesh, but nourishes and cherishes it, just as the Lord does the church.” (Ephesians 5:25, 28-29) So, just because the man has a God given authority over his wife does not mean that she is to be looked down upon or to be treated as inferior.

Now in Proverbs 31:10-31, it says that a virtuous woman is prized far above rubies and is a blessing to her husband. And let’s remember that, “Whoso findeth a wife findeth a good thing, and obtaineth favour of the LORD.” (Proverbs 18:22) So, why does one divorce his wife and marry another, treating her like an object that can be traded in for another. For Jesus condemned that act by saying:(Matthew 5:32) So, a woman is a person that is precious and just as important in the eyes of God as any man.


But if any provide not for his own, and especially for those of his own house, he hath denied the faith, and is worse than an infidel. (1 Timothy 5:8)

According to the passage above, a man is to be the provider for his household. He’s to do all he can to provide food on the table for his family and clothing on their backs. In fact, according to what’s quoted above, for him to do otherwise, would only cause him to be worse than an unbeliever. And let’s also remember that Godʼs word condemns laziness and anyone who is a slacker. For, “He also that is slothful in his work is brother to him that is a great waster.” (Proverbs 18:9)

Now, I donʼt believe that God is condemning those men who are struggling to make ends meet. For sometimes things happen that can put people into predicaments that are out of their control. But in all things, God will meet their needs and see them through if they trust Him and put their hope in Him. So, let all of us who are men do our best to love our wives according to scripture and help train our children in the way they should go. This would include teaching them the truth of Godʼs word and not to be harsh with them or provoke them to anger. The God’s word says: “And, ye fathers, provoke not your children to wrath: but bring them up in the nurture and admonition of the Lord.” (Ephesians 6:4)

So, you “husbands, love your wives, even as Christ also loved the church, and gave himself for it; That he might sanctify and cleanse it with the washing of water by the word, That he might present it to himself a glorious church, not having spot, or wrinkle, or any such thing; but that it should be holy and without blemish. So ought men to love their wives as their own bodies. He that loveth his wife loveth himself. For no man ever yet hated his own flesh; but nourisheth and cherisheth it, even as the Lord the church: For we are members of his body, of his flesh, and of his bones. For this cause shall a man leave his father and mother, and shall be joined unto his wife, and they two shall be one flesh. This is a great mystery: but I speak concerning Christ and the church. Nevertheless let every one of you in particular so love his wife even as himself; and the wife see that she reverence her husband. (Ephesians 5:25-33)

And let those who have little one to “train up a child in the way he should go: and when he is old, he will not depart from it. (Proverbs 22:6) Amen.


The aged women likewise, that they be in behaviour as becometh holiness, not false accusers, not given to much wine, teachers of good things; That they may teach the young women to be sober, to love their husbands, to love their children, To be discreet, chaste, keepers at home, good, obedient to their own husbands, that the word of God be not blasphemed. (Titus 2:3-5)

According the scripture above, women should be passing on to the next generation of women the important role of being keepers of the home. However, we see the opposite happening. For young women are being shipped off to pursue a degree in some collage so that they can have a career outside the home which is not consistent with Godʼs word. Also, mothers are sending off their young children to some daycare so that they can work a job or pursue some career as well. Should they be at home teaching and instilling Godly values to their own children instead of letting someone else teach them who knows what? Even the military as well as the police force has opened its doors to woman which goes against nature. For woman are to bring life into the world, not to take it out.

Unfortunately, this is all part of the fall of mankind. For women feel they need to venture in areas outside their home in order to be recognized as being important or even equal to men. But the truth of it is, a woman's role in the home is just as vital, if not even more important than any job outside of it. For she has the God given role to "train a child in the way they should go" which molds and shapes that child's future. What job can be more important than that?

Now, I don't believe that a woman must only stay within the confines of their home. For there are community programs where both they and their children can get involved in. Also, there are family own businesses which they could help to run. This also would be a great way for their children to get involved, teaching them from a very early age how to be fruitful and productive in life. But again, these businesses should not get in the way of her most important calling which would be tending to her immediate family. For a mother and wife's first priority is always to be there for her children as well as for her husband. This is not a commandment from me, but from God himself. This is all consistent with God's word as we can see from the book of Proverbs quoted below in the reference section.

Of course, there are also those women who choose to be single or have not married yet. These same women can get involved in a job in their community. However, this all depends on their situation at home. For if they are needed to stay at home by their immediate family, (such as helping to take care of her siblings or any aging parents) she needs to forsake what she is doing and attended to her family first. However, if she gets married, her first priority would be toward her husband and any children that follows.


Now, for all you parents who are sending your daughters away from the protection and comfort of the home into college campuses and dorms. You might as well be throwing them into a shark tank and tell them: "sink or swim honey, and oh by the way, remember to watch out for the sharks." Isn't this true? For there are those out there which have other interests in mind for your daughters, and believe me, it's not for their good. For there are night clubs, parties and all sorts of guys they can hang out and get in trouble with. Is that really something you want for your daughters? I hope not, so why not keep them at home?

So please, don’t get caught up in this corrupt system that says you need a degree to make it in this life, because it's a demonic lie. The truth of the matter is, life has gone on just fine without a degree in the past, and this for both men and women. So, my advice to you parents; keep your daughters at home until theyʼre ready for marriage. They can always help out around the house and find extra work in the local businesses while theyʼre still single. It's all for their good.

Now having said all this, I realize that our current world system (at least here in America) has made it hard for a couple to make it financially with only one person working outside of the home. Unfortunately, we have brought this upon ourselves because of greed. A get rich and let’s retire early mentality can bring a nation to ruin.

So that being said: “who can find a virtuous woman? For her price is far above rubies. The heart of her husband doth safely trust in her, so that he shall have no need of spoil. She will do him good and not evil all the days of her life. She seeketh wool, and flax, and worketh willingly with her hands. She is like the merchants' ships; she bringeth her food from afar. She riseth also while it is yet night, and giveth meat to her household, and a portion to her maidens. 

She considereth a field, and buyeth it: with the fruit of her hands she planteth a vineyard. She girdeth her loins with strength, and strengtheneth her arms. She perceiveth that her merchandise is good: her candle goeth not out by night. She layeth her hands to the spindle, and her hands hold the distaff. She stretcheth out her hand to the poor; yea, she reacheth forth her hands to the needy. She is not afraid of the snow for her household: for all her household [are] clothed with scarlet.

She maketh herself coverings of tapestry; her clothing is silk and purple. Her husband is known in the gates, when he sitteth among the elders of the land. She maketh fine linen, and selleth it; and delivereth girdles unto the merchant. Strength and honour are her clothing; and she shall rejoice in time to come. She openeth her mouth with wisdom; and in her tongue is the law of kindness. She looketh well to the ways of her household, and eateth not the bread of idleness.

Her children arise up, and call her blessed; her husband also, and he praiseth her. Many daughters have done virtuously, but thou excellest them all. Favour is deceitful, and beauty is vain: but a woman that feareth the LORD, she shall be praised. Give her of the fruit of her hands; and let her own works praise her in the gates.” (Proverbs 31:10-31)


Let the woman learn in silence with all subjection. But I suffer not a woman to teach, nor to usurp authority over the man, but to be in silence. For Adam was first formed, then Eve. And Adam was not deceived, but the woman being deceived was in the transgression. (1 Timothy 2:11-14)

It is very clear from both in the Old Testament as well as the New, that the leadership positions in the church are to be held only by men. For we must “Let the woman learn in silence with all subjection. But I suffer not a woman to teach, nor to usurp authority over the man, but to be in silence. For Adam was first formed, then Eve. And Adam was not deceived, but the woman being deceived was in the transgression.” (1 Timothy 2:11-14)

If we look at the Old Testament, we can see that all the priestly positions were never held by a woman. For we read: “And take thou unto thee Aaron thy brother ,and his sons with him, from among the children of Israel, that he may minister unto me in the priest's office, even Aaron, Nadab and Abihu, Eleazar and Ithamar, Aaron’s sons (Exodus 28:1) Likewise, if we look at the New Testament Church, we can see that all twelve of the apostles were held only by men whom Jesus chosen. So, if Jesus wanted to have women in leadership positions in the New Testament church, wouldn’t he at least have chosen one woman, perhaps maybe Mary Magdalen to be one of His apostles. But it is clear from Paulʼs letters that no woman should take on any form of leadership within the church assembly, not even among other women. For he said, “But I suffer not a woman to teach, nor to usurp authority over the man, but to be in silence. For Adam was first formed, then Eve. And Adam was not deceived, but the woman being deceived was in the transgression.” (1 Timothy 2:12-14) So, this now being the case, how much more can a woman be deceived in her fallen state, whether she is a Christian or not? 

So, when it comes to teaching and leading an assembly of Christians, we must, “Let your women keep silence in the churches: for it is not permitted unto them to speak; but they are commanded to be under obedience, as also saith the law. And if they will learn anything, let them ask their husbands at home: for it is a shame for women to speak in the church.” (1 Corinthians 14:34-35). This is true also when it comes to a woman's group as well. For we see in God’s word that the only gathering of woman recorded was a prayer group that was held by a river (Acts 16:13). But as far as our manner of life goes, we are to make sure, “that the aged men be sober, grave, temperate, sound in faith, in charity, in patience. The aged women likewise, that they be in behaviour as becometh holiness, not false accusers, not given to much wine, teachers of good things; That they may teach the young women to be sober, to love their husbands, to love their children, To be discreet, chaste, keepers at home, good, obedient to their own husbands, that the word of God be not blasphemed.” (Titus 2:2-5) So, the women should be teaching and training little children to be respectful citizens and younger woman to be keepers of the home. Amen.

Now that being said, the scriptures do teach that women can take part within the church as prophets and as deacons. For first we read: "And it will be in the last days, says God, that I will pour out my Spirit on all people; then your sons and your daughters will prophesy, your young men will see visions, and your old men will dream dreams.  (Acts 2:17) Then we read: “I commend unto you Phebe our sister, which is a servant of the church which is at Cenchrea: That ye receive her in the Lord, as becometh saints, and that ye assist her in whatsoever business she hath need of you: for she hath been a succourer of many, and of myself also.” (Romans 16:1-2) Now it must be understood that this word deacon does not mean a church leader or teacher but one who serves in the church, whether they are a man or a woman. We can see this to be true from Acts chapter 6 where Stephen was appointed as a deacon in the church to serve tables (see: Acts 6:3 and 1 Timothy 3:8-13).

Now, I know that some of you may be thinking about Deborah, who was “a prophetess, the wife of Lapidoth, she judged Israel at that time. And she dwelt under the palm tree of Deborah between Ramah and Bethel in mount Ephraim: and the children of Israel came up to her for judgment. (Judges 4:4-5) So, while it is true that she was holding these two positions, this still wouldn’t qualify her to be a priest or a religious teacher. Prophets speak as God gives them utterance and Judges administer justice. But that doesn't give them license to take on roles which were not assigned to them. “For every high priest taken from among men is ordained for men in things pertaining to God, that he may offer both gifts and sacrifices for sins: Who can have compassion on the ignorant, and on them that are out of the way; for that he himself also is compassed with infirmity.” (Hebrews 5:1-2)

And let’s remember that even King Saul, who was an anointed King in Israel, got into trouble for taking on the duties of a Priest. For “And Samuel said to Saul, Thou hast done foolishly: thou hast not kept the commandment of the LORD thy God, which he commanded thee: for now would the LORD have established thy kingdom upon Israel for ever. But now thy kingdom shall not continue: the LORD hath sought him a man after his own heart, and the LORD hath commanded him to be captain over his people, because thou hast not kept that which the LORD commanded thee. (1 Samuel 13:13-14) So, even though Saul was King of Israel, he still had no authority to take on the role of a priest, thus he was removed from being the King’

Commentary References:

  1. But I suffer not a woman to teach, nor to usurp authority over the man, but to be in silence. For Adam was first formed, then Eve. And Adam was not deceived, but the woman being deceived was in the transgression. (1 Timothy 2:12-14). God, through the apostle Paul, restricts women from serving in roles of teaching and/or having spiritual authority over men. This precludes women from serving as pastors over men and women, which definitely includes preaching to them, teaching them publicly, and exercising spiritual authority over them.......Did Priscilla and her husband teach the gospel of Jesus Christ to Apollos? Yes, in their home they “explained to him the way of God more adequately” (Acts 18:26). Does the Bible ever say that Priscilla pastored a church or taught publicly or became the spiritual leader of a congregation of saints? No. As far as we know, Priscilla was not involved in ministry activity in contradiction to (1 Timothy 2:11–14). In Romans 16:1, Phoebe is called a “deacon” (or “servant”) in the church and is highly commended by Paul. But, as with Priscilla, there is nothing in Scripture to indicate that Phoebe was a pastor or a teacher of men or even of women in the church. “Able to teach” is given as a qualification for elders, but not for deacons (1 Timothy 3:1–13; Titus 1:6–9). The structure of 1 Timothy 2:11–14 makes the reason why women cannot be pastors perfectly clear. Verse 13 begins with “for,” giving the “cause” of Paulʼs statement in verses 11–12. Why should women not teach or have authority over men? Because “Adam was created first, then Eve. And Adam was not the one deceived; it was the woman who was deceived” (verses 13–14). God created Adam first and then created Eve to be a “helper” for Adam. The order of creation has universal application in the family (Ephesians 5:22–33) and in the church. Many women excel in gifts of hospitality, mercy, teaching, evangelism, and helps. Much of the ministry of the local church depends on women deacons. Women in the church are not restricted from public praying or prophesying (1 Corinthians 11:5), only from having spiritual teaching authority over men and women within the confines of a church. The Bible nowhere restricts women from exercising the gifts of the Holy Spirit (1 Corinthians 12). Women, just as much as men, are called to minister to others, to demonstrate the fruit of the Spirit (Galatians 5:22–23), and to proclaim the gospel to the lost (Matthew 28:18–20; Acts 1Y8; 1 Peter 3:15). God has ordained that only men are to serve in positions of spiritual teaching authority in the church...... Men are to set the example in spiritual leadership—in their lives and through their words. Women are to take a less authoritative role. Women are encouraged to teach younger women their roles in life (Titus 2:3–5). The Bible also does not restrict women from teaching children. The only activity women are restricted from is teaching or having spiritual authority over men. This precludes women from serving as pastors to men. This does not make women less important, by any means, but rather gives them a ministry focus more in agreement with Godʼs plan and His gifting of them. - Two Views on Women in Ministry, Revised by James R. Beck, ed. and Logos Bible Software. (
  2. On the sabbath day--the first after their arrival, as the words imply - we went out of the city--rather, as the true reading is, "outside of the (city) gate." - by a river-side--one of the small streams which gave name to the place ere the city was founded by Philip of Macedon. - where prayer was wont to be made--or a prayer-meeting held. It is plain there was no synagogue at Philippi (contrast Act 17:1 ), the number of the Jews being small. The meeting appears to have consisted wholly of women, and these not all Jewish. The neighborhood of streams was preferred, on account of the ceremonial washings used on such occasions - we sat down and spake unto the women, &c.--a humble congregation, and simple manner of preaching. But here and thus were gathered the first-fruits of Europe unto Christ, and they were of the female sex, of whose accession and services honorable mention will again and again be made. (Jamieson, Fausset & Brown Commentary on Acts 16:13)

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Our Role-Play in Life

Wives, submit yourselves unto your own husbands, as unto the Lord. For the husband is the head of the wife, even as Christ is the head of the church: and he is the saviour of the body. Therefore as the church is subject unto Christ, so let the wives be to their own husbands in every thing. Husbands, love your wives, even as Christ also loved the church, and gave himself for it; (Ephesians 5:22-25)